I thought before a humbling was what he needed, he was so certain he was better than everyone else once, but if anything it went too far in the other direction, with him now thinking very little of himself. I have to think there is a medium place for all of us between arrogance and self-hatred.
This fight started because I wanted to talk about my other relationships here. He got jealous and lashed out. I had been holding back on purpose since I know how he gets, but I tried anyway. He's afraid of being replaced or losing love, and I understand that, but I don't think someone's life should revolve entirely around one or two other people. I want him to live a full life with or without me. Or you, even. He could lose us both overnight. I want him to have the tools to keep going if that happens.
As for the authentic part ... I think it's healthier if you do, so you never have to pretend to be someone else to suit another person. But love isn't something you can control. You can only feel it.
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Date: 2021-07-10 08:28 pm (UTC)This fight started because I wanted to talk about my other relationships here. He got jealous and lashed out. I had been holding back on purpose since I know how he gets, but I tried anyway. He's afraid of being replaced or losing love, and I understand that, but I don't think someone's life should revolve entirely around one or two other people. I want him to live a full life with or without me. Or you, even. He could lose us both overnight. I want him to have the tools to keep going if that happens.
As for the authentic part ... I think it's healthier if you do, so you never have to pretend to be someone else to suit another person. But love isn't something you can control. You can only feel it.